I’m 31 years old, and have been married for nearly 4 years. I’m sure you can guess that I get the question, “when are you going to have a baby?” pretty darn frequently. The other day, I had an interesting conversation with my friend Jen, a mom, about how mommy bloggers tend to call themselves “boy moms” or “girl moms.” Well I definitely grew up in a “boy” family. With 3 brothers, I was too busy playing basketball and He-man to dream of my wedding or being a “mommy” some day. I guess that’s where it all started.
Don’t get me wrong, I love kids. In fact, I call myself a baby whisperer because babies (and kids of all ages) seem to love me. However, every time I think I want to have one of my own, the driving reason behind my feelings is a terrible one. In fact, I can only think of terrible reasons to have a baby. Therefore, I have compiled a list of terrible reasons that have popped into my head when I’m considering having a baby. Please enjoy
1. Tax breaks
2. Someone to keep me company while The Hubs travels
3. Ability to use the carpool lane always
4. New wardrobe! (who cares if its maternity)
5. Someone to do all my chores (once they are older)
6. So I’m not crazy dog lady anymore! When no one is home and I’m talking, there will actually be another person there, not just dogs.
7. Just to see what our gene mixing would look like
8. Maternity leave= paid vacation. OR, better yet, no more work! (so long annoying clients!)
10. An excuse to have desserts and other foods I don’t normally allow myself
11. To prove that I can raise a kid better than other people I know
12. To have someone to take care of me when I’m old
13. So I have more stuff to write about on my blog
14. No working out for 9 months+ !
15. Just so people will stop asking
Don’t get me wrong here, I’m not saying I’m NEVER going to have a baby, but I’m not saying I’m definitely going to either. I figure I have a few more years to figure it out before it becomes “crunch time”, and even then it might be too late. I’m fine with that though, and so is The Hubs because I think we truly understand the commitment that a kid takes, and aren’t ready to make that yet. I’d rather have a baby later in life, or not at all, then have one too soon for all the wrong reasons.